What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 21.06.2025 03:10
Off the top of my ancient head:
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
What does the stink of the skunk look like? Why would it be dangerous?
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
What is the story behind bhai dooj?
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”
Is there anything you did that you regret? If so, what is it, and why?
Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
Is crossdressing being a transvestite?
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.